So I may be ever so slightly biased but because it’s Mothers Day (and because I believe it) I’m going to say it: I have the best mum in the world. It’s been a year and a half (that’s right, a year and a half) since I last saw my mum after I moved to London and although we speak often I miss her A LOT. Now, my family aren’t the mushy kind and although we all know we love each other, we’re not the type to say ‘I love you’ every time we hang up the phone but if you can’t be a little soppy on Mother’s Day, when can you eh? So Mum, this one goes out to you; here are the 5 things you’ve taught me without you even realising it.
1. Speaking Badly About Others is Very Unattractive
My mum very rarely, if ever, speaks badly about anyone in her life which, as I’ve gotten older, have come to realise that this is a very admirable trait to possess. In my opinion there is truly nothing worse than being in the company of someone who has nothing better to talk about than belittling others for no apparent reason. It’s not kind and quite frankly, it shows how boring and how little they have to offer in the way of conversation. Mum, you like to talk a lot (which I love) but you never bitch or badmouth which is a testament to how kind and loyal you are to those around you.
2. Travel Whenever You Get the Chance
I have been incredibly lucky to grow up with parents who love to travel and, as a result, I’ve had the privilege of visiting India, the U.S, parts of South East Asia, the U.K and much of Europe with my family. My family are by no means rich but they have made travelling a priority in their lives and in doing so, made me obsessed with seeing the world. When my mum was in her early 20’s she moved to London and I followed in her footsteps and have never looked back.
3. Read Often
When I picture my mum I imagine her on the balcony, a rum in one hand, a book in the other (I know she’ll laugh at this but you know it’s true mum). Mum has always been an avid reader and although I too love to read, my love affair with books has been very on again/off again (I’m currently in an on again phase). I waste so much time looking at screens, scrolling though my timelines and flicking through pictures on Instagram that I’m slowly coming to realise that not only is it bad for your mental health, it’s also super unproductive. Mum never forced me to read but after watching her read book after book ever since I can remember, it’s inspired me to pick them up myself and get lost for a bit.
2. Confrontation Doesn’t Have to Mean Yelling
Dad, you know I love you but I think you’ll agree with me when I say that we infuriate one another. This has often lead to many-a yelling match between us. Interestingly, one thing I’ve never seen my parents do is have an old fashioned scrap. Yes, the odd bicker but it’s never really escalated beyond that, which after over 25 years of marriage I think is amazing! Mum always approaches situations with a sense of calm and rationality (except in airports) and to her, confrontation isn’t about yelling or screaming, it’s about getting your point across in a calm and mature way.
1. Show Kindness As Often As You Can
Mum, without a doubt in my mind, you are one of the most kind people I have ever known and you show kindness in everything you do. You show it in the way you talk to people, talk about people, in your work (she’s a nurse!) and how you handle situations. You always try and do the right thing and by having grown up watching you do this, I try and do the same. Sure, it may bite us in the butt sometimes but I don’t even care, because I’d rather do the right thing and show kindness towards others than live with knowing I’ve hurt people with my actions.
Mum, do you know the best thing about you? It’s that you have never told me what to do or how I should live my life, you’ve shown me and I’ll be thrilled to bits if I can grow up to be half the woman you are. You’ve shown me how to be independent, care for others, make the right decisions for myself and listened to me whenever I’ve needed you to be there. You have never, ever let me down and although I don’t ever say it enough I am so grateful for everything you’ve done for me. Love you, Mum.